The Completely Unscientific Way To Make Him Choose You Over Her

 
If you are in painful relationships with non-committal men who wanted to be "friends" with other women/knockouts,"Do the opposite!".There's a saying, and I wish I knew who said it first, that goes like this: "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."

By then I knew that getting angry and threatening only affirmed for my boyfriend that I was going to smother him and he should run into the other woman's arms. And I knew that begging and pleading only repulsed him.

But more importantly, reacting in those ways always made me feel as if I abandoned myself and made me ashamed of myself. And in that moment, more than anything, I wanted to end the conversation feeling good about myself. So I took Contrary Action.

"Maybe you feel guilty," I said, "because your connection with her isn't a friendship, it's romantic. And maybe you feel like you might cheat on me if you hang out with her. But there's nothing I can do about that. The bottom line is, you have to decide for yourself the best course of action."

And then I said goodnight. And I was OK. I think you could have knocked both of us down with a feather.

An hour later, as I was just drifting off to sleep, my phone rang. It was him. He was calling to tell me he'd cancelled his plans with Neema for the following day and all I said was, "OK." What can I say? I was in the zone.

I'm not suggesting that my Contrary Action changed him permanently.But in most cases it works.